MY PROBLEM CHECKLIST
Emotional
- Psychosocial Crisis: Industry vs. Inferiority
- Identity vs. Role Confusion
Intimacy vs. Isolation
Generativity vs. Stagnation
Ego Integrity vs. Despair
Prevention for problems existed are shown below:
1. Establish House Rules
Make simple rules for your child. Start with a few "things we do and don't do." Discuss them with your child.
2. Prevention Is Better Than Cure
If you feel that your child's behaviour is beginning to get out of control, "nip it in the bud" by distracting your child's attention onto a positive activity or game.
3. Understand Your Child's Behaviour
Define simply and clearly any difficult behaviour. Keep a diary of what led up to the behaviour and what immediately followed it. From this, see if there is a pattern. What are the triggers and consequences which might be keeping the behaviour going? DON'T blame yourself but work at changing your responses.
4. Discipline With Short Time-Outs
Try to view discipline in a different way e.g. if a rule is broken, discipline with a time out a short, quiet time alone, without play. Alternatively ignore minor behaviour difficulties as your attention will often inadvertently encourage the very behaviour you want to stop.
5. Take Five
When tensions and anger rise in you or your child take five. Take five minutes to cool down and to ask yourself, "Why am I getting so angry?" Try to identify the real problem, then find the solution. Always control your temper.
6. Never Strike In Anger
Research has shown that hitting your child does not help, and can do more damage. Try to avoid striking your child in anger. Smacking is not effective in reducing poor behaviour, as it does not teach children good behaviour.
7. Don't Yell or shout at children
Try to avoid yelling at your children in anger. Do not put down your children. If they break a rule, tell them what they did wrong and why that makes you angry. Be angry at what they did, NOT at who they are.
8. Get Away
When you feel frustrated, angry or uncontrollable, let your feelings out safely away from your children. Get out. Take a walk. Do not stay alone with your children when you are overwhelmed. Get help and support.
Make simple rules for your child. Start with a few "things we do and don't do." Discuss them with your child.
2. Prevention Is Better Than Cure
If you feel that your child's behaviour is beginning to get out of control, "nip it in the bud" by distracting your child's attention onto a positive activity or game.
3. Understand Your Child's Behaviour
Define simply and clearly any difficult behaviour. Keep a diary of what led up to the behaviour and what immediately followed it. From this, see if there is a pattern. What are the triggers and consequences which might be keeping the behaviour going? DON'T blame yourself but work at changing your responses.
4. Discipline With Short Time-Outs
Try to view discipline in a different way e.g. if a rule is broken, discipline with a time out a short, quiet time alone, without play. Alternatively ignore minor behaviour difficulties as your attention will often inadvertently encourage the very behaviour you want to stop.
5. Take Five
When tensions and anger rise in you or your child take five. Take five minutes to cool down and to ask yourself, "Why am I getting so angry?" Try to identify the real problem, then find the solution. Always control your temper.
6. Never Strike In Anger
Research has shown that hitting your child does not help, and can do more damage. Try to avoid striking your child in anger. Smacking is not effective in reducing poor behaviour, as it does not teach children good behaviour.
7. Don't Yell or shout at children
Try to avoid yelling at your children in anger. Do not put down your children. If they break a rule, tell them what they did wrong and why that makes you angry. Be angry at what they did, NOT at who they are.
8. Get Away
When you feel frustrated, angry or uncontrollable, let your feelings out safely away from your children. Get out. Take a walk. Do not stay alone with your children when you are overwhelmed. Get help and support.
1. Be There
Talk to your child. What was their day like? Be available. Encourage your child to express feelings creatively by keeping a diary or drawing
2. Be Consistent
Establish a reliable routine. A clear and consistent routine helps a child feel safe and secure.
3. Let Your "No" Be No
If you say "no" to your child, make sure you both understand what that means and keep to the rule. Do not shout. Your child wants to know that your "no" means no.
By Dr. L Batra
Talk to your child. What was their day like? Be available. Encourage your child to express feelings creatively by keeping a diary or drawing
2. Be Consistent
Establish a reliable routine. A clear and consistent routine helps a child feel safe and secure.
3. Let Your "No" Be No
If you say "no" to your child, make sure you both understand what that means and keep to the rule. Do not shout. Your child wants to know that your "no" means no.
By Dr. L Batra
Treatment
Untreated children with behavioural disorders may grow up to be dysfunctional adults. Generally, the earlier the intervention, the better the outcome is likely to be.
A large study in the United States, conducted for the National Institute of Mental Health and the Office of School Education Programs, showed that carefully designed medication management and behavioural treatment for ADHD improved all measures of behaviour in school and at home.
Treatment is usually multifaceted and depends on the particular disorder and factors contributing to it, but may include:
Untreated children with behavioural disorders may grow up to be dysfunctional adults. Generally, the earlier the intervention, the better the outcome is likely to be.
A large study in the United States, conducted for the National Institute of Mental Health and the Office of School Education Programs, showed that carefully designed medication management and behavioural treatment for ADHD improved all measures of behaviour in school and at home.
Treatment is usually multifaceted and depends on the particular disorder and factors contributing to it, but may include:
- Parental education – for example, teaching parents how to communicate with and manage their children.
- Functional family therapy – the entire family is helped to improve communication and problem-solving skills.
- Cognitive behavioural therapy – to help the child to control their thoughts and behaviour.
- Social training – the child is taught important social skills, such as how to have a conversation or play cooperatively with others.
- Anger management – the child is taught how to recognise the signs of their growing frustration and given a range of coping skills designed to defuse their anger and aggressive behaviour. Relaxation techniques and stress management skills are also taught.
- Support for associated problems – for example, a child with a learning difficulty will benefit from professional support.
- Encouragement – many children with behavioural disorders experience repeated failures at school and in their interactions with others. Encouraging the child to excel in their particular talents (such as sport) can help to build self-esteem.
- Medication – to help control impulsive behaviours.
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